Sometimes people ask me how they can get their significant other to try new things. I get a lot of “I have a fantasy about this, but he/she would never go for it…”
If you want to make your sex life more exciting, you don’t need to buy toys or spend money. You can, but you don’t need to. The most important thing you can do is to make your significant other feel sexy.
Never underestimate the power of making someone feel gorgeous and wanted.
In my life, I have absolutely surprised myself by trying lots of things I never thought I would. Every time, it was because someone made me feel sexy and fun and interesting, and I wanted to do new and exciting things with them because they made me feel that way.
Sadly, I guess the first step is to see your partner as sexy.
I know that we hold both men and women to unrealistic standards of beauty these days, and so both men and women can sometimes have trouble seeing their partner as beautiful.
I don’t know what will work for you, but I have a few suggestions that might help:
1. Try switching from professional porn to amateur porn.
2. Try seeing the beauty of their personality shining out of their eyes.
3. Try focusing on features of theirs that you love.
Whatever you do, find a way to see them as sexy, and then make sure that they can feel your attraction and desire. It definitely makes for more exciting and adventurous sex!
Now, I don’t post pictures of myself or talk about myself a lot. However, I know a thing or two about feeling unattractive after spending three years in South Korea. I may have been considered smoking hot in the USA, but in Korea everyone called me fat constantly and told me to diet all the time. It absolutely made me want to have sex less, and be less adventurous.
If you look at this picture (above) I am the one second from the left. You’ll notice that I am the fattest and least attractive person on that stage. That was pretty typical of my experiences in South Korea, and it absolutely affected how I felt about myself.
So take it from someone who knows, confidence is sexy. And to get confidence, you need feel hot. So do everything you can to make your partner feel attractive!