It has come to my attention that people are reading a book called Fifty Shades of Grey, and then getting an impression of the BDSM community from it. So, I picked up a copy and flipped through it.
It is a poor representation of kink.
I would beg you, as humbly as I can, to please read those books if you want to get into BDSM. While you’re at it, there is a subreddit for this as well. There are also online communities like fetlife.com and collarme.com.
Or if you must read BDSM fiction, Ann Rice does some good stuff in the Beauty series.
But please remember that fiction is fiction, and never put things you read in fiction into practice in real life without research into safety and support.
If the BDSM community had a motto, it would be: “Safe, Sane, and Consensual.”
Do not forget this.